I welcome you to the maiden edition of this month’s teachings. This month, I shall be sharing on one of the loopholes found in marriages today. This is why many homes are under the heavy load of self-inflicted burdens and the reason for the lack of peace and love in many marriages. Marital infidelity has been the major problem in most marriages in this present dispensation.
This week, I shall be teaching on the topic: Understanding the Marriage Bed.
This foundation will help you to understand better the importance of the marriage bed. When a man and a woman are joined together in marriage, they enter into a formal agreement which is legally binding.
In the presence of their friends and relatives, they pronounced their vows and commitment to stay together for life (Matthew 19:5-6). This can be accomplished by a feast in the family of the bride. Jesus was a part of such a feast as recorded in John 2:1-2: And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there: And both Jesus was called, and his disciples, to the marriage.
Marital relationship is a covenant. Marriage is the only covenant in the Bible that allows two people to be perfectly joined in all areas of life, from the physical to the spiritual.
This legal contract has a seal.
The seal lies in the consummation of the marriage – sexual intercourse.
The ‘altar’ upon which this covenant is cut is termed ‘marriage bed’. It is not just the physical bed on which you slept on your wedding night or a piece of furniture in your bedroom that is important to God, but the sacredness of the union that exists between you and your spouse.
Sex is sacred because God is a God of covenants. For every covenant God makes, He gives a sign.
The rainbow is the seal of the covenant that God will not destroy the earth with water again (Genesis 9:12-13). For marriage, there is a blood covenant between the two individuals that are involved.
On the wedding night, as the marriage is consummated, God expects to see the hymen break and blood flow, thus sealing the covenant of marriage between husband and wife.
Virginity, therefore, must be taken seriously. No human custom or modern day ideology can change that. Here is one of the Old Testament commandments as it concerns virginity: But if…the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: then they shall bring out the damsel… stone her with stones that she die… (Deuteronomy 22:20-21). This implies that you must keep yourself pure as a young man or woman that desires to have a fulfilled marriage.
Why did God create sexual union? God chose this unique method to replenish the earth. It is for Procreation. The sexual act is meant for the reproduction of mankind on earth.
The Bible says: And Adam KNEW Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bore Cain… (Genesis 4:1) which could mean: And Adam had marital sex with his wife and she conceived and gave birth to Cain.
Apart from the purpose of procreation, marital sex gives pleasure. God said in His Word: Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love (Proverbs 5:18-19).
Sex in marriage was designed to give one of the highest forms of sensual pleasure ever created.
Paul described it as a benevolence, which means a gift that blesses (I Corinthians 7:3).
Several times, the Bible uses the word ‘know’ to describe the intimate, physical relationship between a man and a woman. It is exclusively for husband and wife. One of God’s intentions for designing marriage was for the couple to become one flesh – to be intimate. Isaac and his wife Rebecca were so intimate that a stranger could easily recognise the fact that they were husband and wife (Genesis 26:8).
Another major reason why you are permitted to marry is to avoid sexual sins. This is what the Bible says: …It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband… (1 Corinthians 7:1-5 NKJV)
Therefore, any sexual relationship engaged in, outside the covenant of marriage, defiles and is called sin. It must be repented of and forsaken.
Perhaps you have defiled your bed at a point in time; there is a place of mercy that allows for repentance.
First, you need to acknowledge your sins and be ready to forsake them, the One who is knowledgeable about everything. Give your life to Jesus Christ and you shall be saved.
Do you want to be born again?
Why not say this prayer in faith and you shall be born again! “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, congratulations, you are born again and you are now a child of God! He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).