Every lady has a dream of getting married
someday to her prince charming who will fit into
her expectations and who she will live happily ever
after with but before you go ahead into that
marriage if your prince charming is a pastor you
really need to get yourself to the under listed
points.
(1) GET TO KNOW HIS AREA OF CALLING:
You need to ask questions from him which aspect
of the ministry he is called into, is it deliverance,
faith, healing etc Where is he suppose to function
in the body of Christ. You need to understand his
calling very well and get prepared for the task
ahead.
(2) GOD IS HIS EMPLOYER, NOT THE CHURCH:
Do not expect that because he is in charge of a
large congregation then you will not have financial
challenges, many have the notion that Pastors
have free access to Church money and always get
disappointed after marrying him. Note that the
Pastor is not the sole signatory to Church account;
the church is not an ATM. You had better prepared
to spend your personal money on God’s work. If
your reason for wanting to marry that Pastor is
money induced, please, cancel your wedding.
(3) PREPARE FOR A CHANGE
When you get married to a pastor, it will obstruct
your plans, change your directions and divert your
focus. Dear, there are values that you will have to
uphold, actions you will not be able to take,
sacrifices you will have to make, your life
directions will be significantly affected. How flexible
are you?
(4) PARTNER IN SERVICE
1 Peter 4: 10, John 13: 13-17, Please, know that
you are his partner in service to bless and meet
people’s needs in the Name of Jesus, you are to
serve alongside him, do not go with the mindset
that people are to serve you. You must embrace
his ministry, learn under him and give him the
total support.
(5) LADIES PASTOR
He will not only be the pastor of men but of ladies
too and some of them will be extremely attractive.
So, if you are a jealous type, you had better marry
someone else and quit your relationship with the
Pastor.
(6) BIG HEART
It is not only a big hat that makes a pastor’s wife
but a big heart growing in the Lord and towards
the Lord Jesus. You must have a large heart to
accommodate and manage different classes of
people with varying characters.
(7) NO DEPENDENCY ON PEOPLE FOR
AFFIRMATION
Before you marry a pastor you must erase your
dependency on people for affirmation and increase
your dependency on God for approval.
(8) RIGHT SPIRIT
A positive and caring spirit to serve others will be
helpful; you must do away with self-centeredness
and solo life because a pastor is a man of the
people.
(9) SLEEPING ALONE
The demand of the ministry might require him to
travel for ministerial assignments, meetings, and
retreats which may take him away from you at
night.
(10) OPPOSE EXTRAVAGANT LIFESTYLE
If you must marry a Pastor, you must do away with
extravagance lifestyle and be humane. You must
not be materialistic lest the church members
detest you
(11) ACT OF HOSPITALITY
Before you marry a pastor, how hospitable are
you? A lot of People will come for counseling in
your house and most of them may not be
financially strong but you must be hospitable
towards them even if they don’t appreciate what
you are doing.
(12) PREPARE TO BE A GLOBETROTTER
The work of a pastor involves a lot of transfer from
city to city and nation to nation. At times, he may
not spend up to three months in a location before
he gets another letter of transfer. If you don’t like
moving from one place to another, quit your
relationship with the pastor now
(13) HE HAS A BOSS
He has a Boss – GOD. Do not expect him to put
you ahead of his Boss. Help him to serve and obey
God in all things. Please, don’t push him against
God.
(14) MAN OF GOD
Before you marry a pastor, please always
remember that he is a man. So, do not assume
that been a man of God he does not have sexual
urge and temptations like other men, he does.
Maintaining your good looks and shape is very
important for you to be able to keep him from
falling into temptations.
(15) GOD’S REPRESENTATIVE
Before you marry that pastor, know that he is not
just a man but God’s mouthpiece and His
representative and you must respect and treat him
as such, will you be able to?
Pastors’ marriage is very important to the
wellbeing of the Church and the society. Pastors
are a fantastic set of people any lady can wish for
in marriage but any lady that will marry them must
be prepared for the following realities in a pastor’s
marriage before tying the nuptial knot with him.
(16) NO EVERYDAY ROMANCE:
Marrying a pastor come with its own challenges
and one of it is that pastor will pray at night. So,
sorry no everyday romance in a Pastor’s diary.
(17) IT IS A 24/7:
A pastor’s job is a 24 hours of the seven days in
the week; it fit the slogan FULL TIME. There may
not be time to go out to your favourite restaurant
in a long time because of the round the clock
attention demand from his church members. Can
you cope with this?
(18) NOT AN OIL WORKER:
Before you marry that pastor, please wake up to
the fact that he is not an oil and gas staff. So,
conflict: money may not flow like you think.
Although, God’s staff are the best paid in the world
over but will you be able to wait faithfully for Him
to pay? His timing is totally different.
(19) CHURCH CONFLICT:
Mama in the waiting, there will be conflict. Yes,
even in the church, people disagree and
sometimes flesh might be displayed in a dirty
manner. They may form a caucus and gang up
against the pastor. Are you mature enough to
handle it?
(20) THE PERFECT WIFE:
You will be expected to behave perfectly, other
women have the right to get angry and show it but
not YOU, even your Prince charming expectation
will be higher as he expects you not to
demonstrate your displeasure no matter the
circumstances. Are you prepared for this?
(21) MUMMY MISSION:
Before you marry that pastor, hope you do not
have anything against living in the mission house
especially if he is a pastor in a denomination
where their Pastor must live in the mission house.
Please, be informed that the mission house is
everybody’s house as the Church members can
walk in at any time, deny you of your privacy, eat
your food, exhaust your water, mess up your toilet
and you must not complain because the house
was built with their money for them to have
unhindered access to their Pastor
(22) PRAY FOR ALL:
The elders, deacons, workers that hate your
husband will be known to you and you still have to
pray for them and with them, can you do this?
(23) FORGIVES AND FORGET:
Before you marry that pastor, please be informed
that you will be expected to forgive and forget
offenses fast so as not to hinder the Church and
the Pastor’s prayer. You must have forgiveness in
wholesale because, members, ministers, deacons,
good women, men, girl the youths and elders will
offend you and you must forgive them if you want
your husband to excel in his calling.
(24) PERFECT PARENTING:
Your children are not expected to make mistake,
display tantrums, be too playful, they are expected
to be mini Angels. God help you, girl if they are
not.
(25) ALL PROGRAMMES:
Before you marry a pastor please note that you will
be forced to attend all Church programs, no
excuse of any kind. If not, the Church will be
having negative impression about you.
(26) FASTING:
As the pastor Mrs., you will fast and this is not a
suggestion but a compulsory thing as it comes
with your wedding package.
(27) PRAYER MACHINE:
Before you marry the pastor, be informed that you
will pray when you feel like praying and when you
don’t feel like prayer. Prayer must become your
hobby. As you become pastor Mrs., you must
know how to PUSH. That is praying until
something happens and in the Ministry, we will
never stop praying until Jesus comes.
(28) LEAD WOMEN:
Your good women leader might be as old as your
mum, some will try to make you realize that they
are older and want to intimidate you; will you be
able to handle them with wisdom?
(29) MEETINGS, SEMINARS ETC:
Before you decide to marry that pastor, girl note
that he will be required to attend many meetings,
seminars, and plan, organize revivals, crusades,
meetings , seminars ,etc You might be required to
organize seminars for women, youths and pregnant
mothers which may be quite big, do you have that
capacity?
He will attend some alone will you be
fine?
(30) DEMONIC ATTACK:
Attacks are directed at the shepherd so expect it,
are you equipped enough for this? Are you a
spiritually vibrant sister or a weakling? Do you
have that strong relationship with heaven? Matt
26:31