Secrets That can Transform your Marriage – Pastor Faith Oyedepo
|Topic: Secrets That Can Transform Your Marriage|
You are welcome to another exciting moment with God on this column. Thank God for His Word of wisdom that He has been revealing to us, thereby unveiling the secrets for our marriage. Last week, the secrets of the words, “I’m sorry” was revealed to us. This week, God has another secret for you, and that secret is learning to say, “Thank you.”
These two short words, “Thank you”, go a long way towards creating credibility. There may be dozens of times each day when we should say “thank you” and we don’t. We’re either too busy, preoccupied with our own thoughts or feelings, or maybe we’re unknowingly insensitive to the good deeds done by our spouse. When your spouse does anything for you, then, it is time to say, “Thank you.”
“Thank you” is a phrase that any of us can say that can help improve and transform our marriage. Say it once and reap the blessings. Say it often and you will enrich your marriage greatly!
Men and women who are not complimented do not feel appreciated. They feel taken for granted and ordinary. Appreciating little things creates greater things. Nothing should escape our appreciation or thanks; it motivates the beneficiary to go a step further.
A two-word, such as “Thank you” can do a lot to brighten and strengthen the relationship between you and your spouse. Some men never see the need to say “Thank you” to their wives. To them, their wives deserve no commendation for performing their domestic duties. This is unfair and unscriptural. Thanksgiving should be reciprocal. It shouldn’t be one-sided. So, learn to appreciate others for their good deeds around the home, and for their kind gestures shown towards you.
Besides this, you must also be thankful to the Lord for your spouse and family members, no matter the situation. God’s Word says: Out of them shall proceed thanksgiving and the voice of them that make merry: and I will multiply them, and they shall not be few; I will also glorify them, and they shall not be small (Jeremiah 30:19).
Thanksgiving always has multiplier effect on whatever you are giving God thanks for. If you thank Him for the love that reigns in your family today, He will multiply it. If you can inculcate the act of gratitude into your family’s lifestyle, then get set to experience the love and peace that knows no bounds in your marital life.
Thanking your spouse for doing something well or for something you like about him or her, goes a long way to improve the love in your marriage. Everyone loves to be praised; everyone loves nice things to be said about him or her.
Men and women who are not complimented feel taken for granted and ordinary. So, when someone outside showers them with the much sought for compliments, they are easily carried away. Appreciating little things creates greater things. Nothing should escape our praise; it motivates the beneficiary to go a step further.
Husband, treat your wife with care by speaking kind words of appreciation to her often. She needs to hear you express daily, how much you love and appreciate her.
If you are not yet born again, this is a great opportunity for you as you receive Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour. Why not say this simple prayer with me, in faith: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).