The Consequence of Honesty in Our Daily Lives
The Old and New Testament of the Scriptures has various passages that speak about the account of importance.
One of the easiest (so to say) passage is contained in the letter of Apostle Paul to the Ephesians; Ephesians 4:25, stating that, “Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbor: for we are members of one another.”
This passage shows the account of honesty; how important and powerful it is not just because it delivers our soul of the burden of deceit, but also because it drives wedges between people.
These words of deceit enslave those who utter them and also the ones who are deceived.
Also, the pains caused by the discovery of a lie could be so deep that a relationship is affected forever.
The book of Luke 16:10-12 reads, “He that’s faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much.
If therefor ye have not been faithful in the unrighteous mammon, who will commit to your trust the truth riches? And if ye have not been faithful in that which is another man’s, who shall give you that which is your own?”
There are several reasons why people lie, but all this reasons have a common thing which is fear.
Some lies are told with the intent of sparing someone hurt; not wanting to disappoint the person.
For instance, we may not be in the mood to do what a friend desires we do, so we tend to reply with something to cover up, even if it’s not true.
These replies tend to damage relationships, even the good ones, then why make room for such?
Being truthful is sometimes hard, and it takes courage, nonetheless the sensation of this truthfulness to our closed ones, proves to be greatly rewarding both for ourselves and them too.
Lies of such are often regarded as white lies, though could be harmless but if it becomes an habit, can end up creating distance between ourselves and others.
To fight habitual lying, the very first to take is to accept God’s provision which is His grace and mercy.
Our faith in God has the capacity; the strength needed to face the consequences of being honest.
We tend to achieve less when we engage in telling lies though it seems easy to fabricate so as to cover up our mistakes.
Admitting that there is a problem helps us to rely on God and prayers at times when anxiety hits hard and are tempted to lie.
Another thing to learn is to depend on others – our close friend, a trusted family member, pastor or therapist.
We can start off by committing to total honesty with a person.
Surely, we can grow our circle of trust until we feel more comfortable revealing who we are to a larger group.
Sometimes, admitting lies and commitment to new found openness in the future gives headway in relationships.
Also, you should be prepared for people you have hurt to take their times in believing you once again.
You shouldn’t allow the fear of rejection drive you back into the circles of lies; thinking of the hardest times as a necessary basis to rebuild important relationships.
Develop the habit of journal keeping.
Your journal shouldn’t just be a list your day-to-day activities but you have a section to keep tabs on your improvement in being honest with people.
You should use to write down reasons why you told a lie and also consider it as a way of dealing with another difficult situation; that which doesn’t involve lying.
Goals setting and achievements every day are also another way to creating meaning in our life.
As we achieve these set goals, our self-confidence grows and which makes us feel less tempted to give our ego a boost with lies.
If you ever get back into telling a lie, remember that your worst actions do not give a definition of who you are as you can always have a clean slate.
You should learn to use your setbacks to enlighten yourself on how to do things a different way every time.
Finally, whenever you are tempted to tell a lie or any destructive behavior, do not hesitate to engage your Bible; study and find inspirational verses and pray.
Our faith enables us to move mountains, knock down fear and other setbacks to a beautiful and accountable life.
Pray always in the Spirit, make up your mind also to live a life of Righteousness and Truth, when this is in place, living on God’s word, truth will be easy, it all start from you making up your mind, then strategically and deliberately channel and fashion your life in accordance to the word of God, live soley by God’s word, Pray always in the Spirit!