Topic: Loving Your Wife The Bible Way! (3)

Dear Reader,

Welcome to yet another time of refreshing. Since this month began, we have discovered that the journey into marital fulfilment will only be a success, by walking in the light that comes from the Word of God.

Last week we started examining what must be in place, for true expression of love. Today, we shall be looking at the practical ways love can be expressed to your wife, in what I have titled: Loving In Thoughts & In Words!

Loving essentially starts from the heart, but eventually finds expression through the mouth and by actions. Therefore, beginning from the thoughts of your hearts, husbands, learn to love your wives. It is noted from God’s Word that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks (Matthew 12:34). Thus, when your heart is full of loving thoughts, it readily finds expression in the words you speak.

If, for instance, you use abusive words on your wife, you have succeeded in convincing everyone that is a witness to it that you are speaking out of the abundance of your heart. Until you change the contents of your thoughts, you cannot speak otherwise.

Men initiate things and women respond to them. Husband, initiate the love relationship between you and your wife, and she will respond to you in love, for no woman hates to be loved. When you love your wife, you easily win her submission.

Furthermore, as a caring husband, you must learn to speak kind words to your wife. Words create the right atmosphere in the home. Express to her the nice qualities you like in her. Handle your wife with care by speaking kind words of appreciation to her often.

Your relationship with your wife started with the use of these three words: “I love you.” That means, it will grow by its continuous use.  Often, however, these words are forgotten after the euphoria of the wedding ceremony is over. Words are powerful, and saying, “I love you” over and over, spices up marriage. Just as it is necessary for rain to fall again and again for farmers to reap a bountiful harvest; so also, it is to say, “I love you” over and over.

The presumptuous claim that it is not necessary to say it over and over because, “She should know I love her”, is wrong. She needs to hear you express daily how much you love and appreciate her. My husband says it to me daily, and I never get tired of hearing it.

Even God’s Word points out the importance of voicing out what one believes in the heart (Romans 10:10). Give voice to your feelings; it is not a sign weakness, but of strength! The world was made by faith-filled words; therefore, let your “I love you” to your spouse be also full of faith. Even if your spouse is a monster, she would change to a marvel! That is how God won man to Himself. While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us, thus saying, “ I love you” to the people who rejected His love.

Some men find it hard to say, “I am sorry. Please, forgive me,” because of their ego. God’s Word says: And my people shall dwell in a peaceable habitation, and in sure dwellings, and in quiet resting places (Isaiah 32:18). That is, God’s original intent for the home is to be a place of peace and quietness. “Quietness,” not in the sense of silence, but of rest.

Therefore, any man who desires his home to be heaven on earth should not let ego stand between him and his wife, or children. Don’t give room to the devil to bring problems to your home. Learn to say “I am sorry”, when you offend your wife or you observe that she’s not just happy with you. Like I mentioned earlier, it’s never a sign of weakness but of strength, and it works!

Next week, I shall examine loving with actions. Meanwhile, if you have not accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour, you are incapable of demonstrating God’s kind of love. It is when you accept Jesus into your life that the love of God is shed abroad into your heart (Romans 5:5).

If you want to give your life to Christ, say this prayer with me: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)