Topic: Love & Marriage (2)

Dear Reader,

It is a privilege to bring God’s Word your way again. God’s instructions are as valid today as ever. To follow them is to make an honourable and a godly choice. No shame comes from following God’s instructions as it is beneficial and has lasting rewards.

Last week, we saw God’s involvement in the journey of love and marriage. Marriage is one of God’s most wonderful gifts to mankind. It is a treasure worth working on, cherishing and sustaining.

Marriage is a “holy estate” instituted by God, who created man and woman to complement each other. Love is the first principle of marriage; the husband is to sacrifice himself for his wife, and the wife submits herself to her husband.

Love is the cement that holds the marriage union together. If you are not in love with your spouse, there is nothing to bind the relationship together. Love is the master key to a lasting marriage. Entering into marriage without love is like coming into the world without a heart.

Jesus Christ demonstrated this sacrificial and selfless love for mankind, through His focus on self-sacrifice, the seeking of the well-being and benefit of others at one’s own expense. That is true love!

Since God built marriage, He has created all that it would take to make it work (Hebrews 3:4). All you need do is abide by God’s principle and implement His plan for marriage. God has said: Husbands, love your wives, and to the woman, He said: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husband (Ephesians 5:25 and 22).

In essence, love is not just words or feelings, but a decision expressed in deeds. Love is not focused on the benefit to the giver, but on the benefit to the recipient. Love is not love until it is expressed!

God expressed His love for us by giving His most precious possession – His Son (John 3:16). You don’t just love in your heart, thoughts or by your words. You must go further by expressing your love by action, which often than not, it is demonstrated by giving. As my husband often says, “You can give without loving, but you can’t love without giving.”

What is the proof that you truly love your spouse and children? What have you given them lately in demonstration of your love for them? – THINK ABOUT IT! The Bible says: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it (Ephesians 5:25). This love is not optional, but mandatory.

To give a listening ear to what the other party is saying, thinking or going through, is of greater value than the physical or material things you give. When both parties are impatient and no one wants to give their attention to the other, misunderstanding arises.

Saying the three letter words, “I love you” to your spouse and children, may be just what you need to create a transformation in your house. It doesn’t portray weakness, but strength. Don’t just say it and act selfishly, then your actions are contrary your love.

Your home could become a place where joy, laughter, excitement and peace, are the order of the day. It can be the home God created it to be. Just make it a point of duty to love, not only by saying it, but by showing it.

However, you can’t love effectively without accepting the Lord Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. Remember, without Him you can do nothing, but with Him there is more than enough grace to love.

Make a decision to accept Jesus into your life, today, and receive this grace to love and see your home experience a transformation. Say this prayer with me, if you are set for this grace: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.