Topic: God’s Design for a Successful Family Life! (3)
Oftentimes, readers have written to me, asking me to pray that they have a successful marriage and family life. My response to everyone today, is that you are the builder and the architect of your family.
If your family life turns out to be successful, you have played a part in its success, even though God is the ultimate builder (Hebrews 3:4). If your family life is not successful, God is not to blame either, because He always keeps His own side of the covenant. Before your family can be built successfully, there are responsibilities you must accept and fulfill.
It is a well known fact that the quality of any establishment is largely dependent on the quality of its leadership. This is also true of any family. That is why, this week, we shall be looking at: A True Family Man & Woman, in our quest for a successful family.
A True Family Man is a one of many parts. He is a good leader that takes decisions, guarantees the welfare of the home and makes provisions for his family members physically, and financially. Besides that, he is a spiritual beacon, interceding for each member of the family regularly.
However, in this piece, we shall be looking at one secret upon which all others hinge, which is Love. The secret of the love he has for his family is a major motivation that moves him to fulfill all of his other responsibilities.
Apostle Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost, said: Husbands love your wives, even as Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it (Ephesians 5:25). The instruction to love is a commandment from the Almighty God. Wherever love is present, it can be seen, read, heard and felt; it cannot be hidden.
There can’t be effective leadership without love. As a man, loving as much as Jesus loves the church is the standard. Jesus loved the church when it had no comeliness. While we were yet sinners, Christ laid down His life for us (His Church) (1 John 3:16).
God’s Word says: Love thinketh no evil (1 Corinthians 13:5). Therefore, always resist any evil thought in you, concerning your wife or other family members, in the mighty name of Jesus. A true family man, therefore, speaks good and godly words to his wife and children. When he calls his wife a virtuous woman, she longs to live up to that title. As he calls his children gifted and intelligent, they work hard not to disappoint his expectation. Anyone, who draws people to himself, is touched by their feelings and shows concern for them, is always an effective leader.
A True Family Woman is one who brings rest to the people around her. After the creation of woman, God rested. He was so satisfied and convinced with the creation of woman that He placed a seal of perfection on all His creation, after she was made.
Comfort is a major characteristic of a true family woman. Even God in His Word reveals this when He said: As one whom his mother comforteth, so will I comfort you (Isaiah 66:13). You can imagine the Almighty God comparing His comfort to that of a mother. That goes to tell you that a woman’s soothing touch and presence are meant to bring comfort, encouragement, relief, joy, rest, help and love to her family.
A true family woman is a solution provider. At the wedding of Cana in John 2:5, Mary, the mother of Jesus, pointed the servants, who lacked enough wine for the wedding, to the solution. She said: Whatsoever he (Christ) saith unto you, do it.
A true family woman is also a child’s first teacher. There is a special link between a woman and the child she carried in her womb, and breast fed at birth. This link gives her a unique position and tie with the child, which fathers don’t have. This can be used as a point of contact to pray for the proper development of the child.
No investment made over your child’s life is wasted. Abraham Lincoln, one time President of the USA said, “All that I am, I owe to my angel mother.” Wouldn’t you desire to hear that being said of you? Today, I see grace being imparted on both you the man and the woman by all the knowledge you have acquired from this article! Your home shall never be the same again in Jesus’ precious name.
Moreover, it is important to know that until Christ becomes the Lord of your life, He cannot, in anyway, give you all the grace it takes to be a true family man and woman. Therefore, if Jesus is not yet your Lord, you need to say this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).