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Building Relationship on Love with “Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding” – Proverb 24: 3-4

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Building on Love

Prov. 24:3-4 says “A house is built by wisdom and becomes strong through Understanding.

Through knowledge its rooms are filled with all sorts of precious riches and valuables.

Building relationships on the foundation of Love is based on 3 key facts:

 

KNOWLEDGE

Knowledge talks about gathering of relevant facts; a lot of people think they just know love without seeking adequate knowledge concerning the subject. It doesn’t take knowledge to love because God himself puts the feeling in there; this is why an illiterate can be in love, and this is also the reason people say love is blind because it sometimes does work with knowledge standards when seeking its companion, but it is impossible to sustain love except through knowledge.

The more we spend time in our relationships to know more about the person we are in a relationship with, the better we are at managing them. Don’t ever conclude that you know your husband, or your wife, your colleagues, your boss, your pastor etc., take time to study personality traits and differences. Study the male difference and the female differences that accounts for their uniqueness because without adequate knowledge of the male and female differences you may experience a lot of hitches.

For those in marriage or courtship your quest for knowledge goes further to understudying the background, family history, childhood, likes and dislikes, past relationships, weakness, strength, failures, past mistakes of your spouse.

Buy books on relationship and begin to develop yourself, don’t rely on head knowledge, marriage is journey and only those who have gone ahead can give you a guide on how to overcome huddles along your path; but all these can be acquired by seeking for knowledge.

UNDERSTANDING

You must understand that for every difference or weakness in your spouses, God placed you in that relationship as a solution. Understanding means you knowing how to apply the facts you have gathered through knowledge, it is you getting abreast with the do’s and how’s and when’s of the relationship. A lot of relationships have scattered and are in constant tension because of lack of understanding among couples. When you understand the gender differences it makes you relaxed, when understand what is required of you to do as a man or woman in a relationship according to biblical standards you are more relaxed. You would not be in a haste to curse your wife or to be rude to your husband even when they are wrong; understanding tells you the right knowledge to apply to get your needed result.

I once read about a woman who caught her husband red handed with another woman in a hotel; contrary to every woman’s reaction she took her husband by the hand without saying a word to the girl who was cheating with her husband and drove her husband home.

Still silent about the matter she prepared his best meal, prepared his water to shower and dressed his room for the night.

The husband kept waiting for her to react like every other regular woman but to no avail. Days went by and she kept acting as if nothing happened, the good thing was that she kept relating well with her husband and not giving him a frown. That action alone healed that marriage and the husband became a changed person.

I also read the story of a woman that the husband always comes very late at night, sometimes 1am or 2am in the morning. According to the story, she would wake up at anytime her husband comes home and warm the food for the man, prepare the dinning for him, prepare the bathroom for him.

This scenario went on for a long time without her complaining; one day the husband said to the friends who made him keep late night that he was not going to hang out with them anymore, and they asked him why, and he replied that he never knew he had such a good wife at home that needs more of his attention and he spends his time with them drinking and having one night stands every day. I knew about a man that speaks the nicest words to the wife even when she makes grievous mistakes like adding too much salt to the soup or not cleaning the sitting room properly. Without prayers, just with simple understanding these people were able to cure their marriages.

Understanding is you knowing what to apply, how to apply, and when to apply all that facts that you have gathered through knowledge concerning your relationship. Lack of understanding makes you look foolish even after you have gained knowledge, it can make you loose something you would have preserved; understanding it is the key success in any relationships, it is the root of patience and perseverance, it is the anchor of hope for relationships.

WISDOM

The bible says that wisdom is the principal thing; this means that wisdom is first in every relationship. Wisdom means you putting to work all you gathered through knowledge, and the facts you have been able to understand into your relationship to keep that relationship ever vibrant. Wisdom works in hand with understand; that is why the bible says that in all your getting, get understanding. You must understand that it is possible for you to put to work what you have learnt but in a wrong way. Not everything that applies in relationship A can apply to B, understanding helps wisdom to apply rightly. Whatever you have gained by way of knowledge through marriage seminars, singles forum, marriage workshops, marriage trainings, books, biographies, mentorship etc.; the wisdom here is when you begin to apply them rightly to make your relationship a heaven on earth and an enviable one worthy of emulation. Don’t be like one who has understanding without applying it (wisdom) and one who has wisdom without understanding (applying wrongly).

In conclusion, your relationship works best when you allow Christ to be the head. Christ gave all of us only one duty each in our relationships which is “Husbands love your wife and wives submit to your husband”. Adherence to this duty naturally gives birth to a peaceful relationship.

Written by Ik Solomon

1 Comment

  1. Bro Amos Tengen

    February 26, 2017 at 6:09 am

    It is a very wandafull blessing for me to understand the teaches about relationship as a Christian, am very happy and bless, thank God for u man of God

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