More often than not, we are subjected to practices that perhaps, society wisely are the norms and they are generally accepted, but this doesn’t make them right, no matter how well accepted it can be around us.

I want to be a little more precise here, and what i mean is this, Sex in itself is not a sin, but it is meant to be with just one partner for Life, and  that is only allowed, after MARRIAGE’ as been done.

Sex outside marriage, especially Pre-marital sex is fornication and it is unacceptable, it is not just sinful, but it is also dangerous and harmful for the both party, since youth are always silent about issues like this, sometimes addressing them can just be a little more difficult than normal.

But over the years, as a Single Youth, i have come to realize by personal experience that, it doesn’t really matter how much we ignore it, it is still a very essential and vital part of our lives, especially as we grow to become great ladies and gentle men.

So wisdom, demands that we pay attention to this essential part of Life, Abstinence as always been the best remedy, especially for every True Born-again Christian, and like Nathaniel Bassey says, we need to begin to plan in the heart of our young men and ladies who are still singles, “NO MARRIAGE, NO SEX”, every Partners in Relationship must establish this reality unto one another, and the reason is because, at times, it is very difficult to live by this standard, perhaps because some are explosed to Pornography, sexual content and films, hence, making their craving and desires for sex, to be a little more hyper, but when this is established, your partner will be able to help you stand your ground on the reality of your agreement together on the subject “NO MARRIAGE, NO SEX”.

I have written about it on this blog before, that the laws of God are not grievous, they are ready meant to empower us to live to the fullness of life and destiny and to explore all that is available to us in Christ Jesus.

Abstinence seems unrealistic nowadays, due to the pervasive sex culture of our society.

The struggle is real for singles who are constantly seeing premarital sex being advertised as “the norm” and “empowering.”

How can you avoid something that is present all around us?

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Here are 5 tips to answer just that
 
1. Put God first. And keep Him there! Compare what the world says to what the Word says. Abide by Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

2. Monitor what you take in.
What music are you listening to? What shows are you watching? What books do you read? You have to be wary of what you allow into your mind and your heart. You may be familiar with Proverbs 4:23 (NLT), “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” If what you’re taking in is sexually stimulating, you need to leave it alone. Let the Bible be the greatest influence in your life.

3. Who are you hanging out with?
Do your friends share your views on sex? Are they living the abstinent lifestyle as well? If not, you might need to clean out your inner circle. Corinthians 15:33 warns (NIV), “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” That should say it all.4. Know when to go. If you have a boyfriend or even a fiancé, know when to go. What I mean by that is no late night visits, or midnight movie marathons. Don’t overestimate your strength to resist temptation. And yes, I know that Corinthians 10:13 says God always provides a way out of temptation, but we are only human. The reality is that we “…all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23 [NIV]), so avoid situations that may tempt you to compromise.

5. Pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
Pray every day. Pray when you need strength, and when you feel like you don’t. Matthew 26:41 (NIV) says, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

God has empowered you to stay pure.
If you apply these, you’ll find it much easier to walk in that power and live a life pleasing to the Lord.
Note : This tips is for Christian Singles and youth who are not yet married, when you are married, you are free to have sex with your partner.